Can we all agree ... no more Mommy Guilt?

If I had one message for moms ... stop feeling guilty. I see it everywhere. Moms seem to be trapped in a life of "should have's," feeling like they don't measure up, like they are failing at the greatest and most challenging job on earth - raising our kids.

I saw it in my own mom. When I went off to college, my mom gave me a letter apologizing for her failure as a mother. I couldn't believe it. How had she failed? Here I was at college, on an academic scholarship. I graduated from high school with honors and perfect attendance. I became a Christian when I was six. As I went to college, I was an active member of a new mission church (thot would become one of the most influencial churches in America). I had friends. I had enough self-confidence to go to college out of state.

The truth is, I thought that somehow I was a disappointment to her, if she thought she was a failure as a mother. Was my mom a failure? By no means. But the guilt she felt over not being the "perfect" mom, overshadowed her whole mothering experience, robbing her of mony joyous moments motherhood can bring.

I knew as a young woman, a young mom, I didn't want to have that mindset. But how do you avoid it?

Almost as soon as the child arrives, you start comparing him to other babies. I gave birth to my first child the same week two of my other friends gave birth to their first borns. There was plenty to compare and contrast.

As toddlerhood approached, I wondered if my floors would ever be clean again (ever step on a Goldfish cracker or a Froot Loop?). Was I spending enough time with my child? Was I doing the right things with/for my child? Was it okay that he always crawled under the table when we went out to eat? The mommy guilt can set in very quickly.

Add two more kids to the mix ... and I know my floors will never be clean. And that's OKAY.

More on this later ... my kids are calling me to play Wii. And I'm starting to feel guilty for spending time on the computer rather than playing with them.